Anxiety: Tips For Dealing With It

We all have anxiety and stress in our lives. It's inevitable. How many times have you gone to the grocery store and realized that you are in fact in the slowest check -out in the store, or you run into a traffic jam at an inconvenient time, or you lost a job, or you moved? Obviously this list could go on and on, but I'm sure you get the point.

For some os us being stuck in traffic is an inconvenience but not particularly stressful. For others it could ruin their day. So makes the difference? Some of us just cope better than others.

Another problem is the fact that some people simply do not utilize appropriate coping mechanisms when they experience feelings of anxiety and stress. Did you know that suppressing your feelings may be one of the worst things you can do for your health?

It is vital that you find a way to deal with stress that will work for you. Some people find that they can tolerate stress better if they take a break from reality for a period of time. Fortunate individuals are able to take actual vacations or perhaps visit a spa.

But many of us have to accept a smaller version of that and use our minds to take a break. This can be done in a matter of minutes and it really can change the way you feel. The next time you are feeling stressed try closing your eyes and imagining the most magnificent place you can.

Make this your ‘escape haven’. When you think about this place make it wonderful – but keep in mind that this is your place and only your place. You get to design in whatever fashion you like. The colors do not have to relate to what is real or in nature – you can have purple trees and a blue sun in an orange sky if you like.

It’s your private escape. Let this be a place you can go to in your mind at anytime at all. Here you are safe and trouble free – all is good. You are rested and happy. There is never any stress or anxiety here!

You may find that breathing exercises help with your stress as well. Practice controlled breathing. Breathe in deeply and hold that for just a moment before you let the air escape. Make your breathing regular and even.

If you find that something is stirring up stressful thoughts try the old favorite of talking yourself down, telling yourself that it will be all right. Be your own friend! If you cannot escape from reality for the time it takes to do any of those things you may find that through controlled breathing and a simple counting to ten you are able to regain composure.

Journaling seems to be very helpful for many people. Since you are encouraged to share your problems – with a t least one other person – believe me, many of us would rather not share – it helps to put those thoughts down on paper. We can even burn the paper afterward but just getting the thoughts out seems to help.

This is only the tip of the iceberg as far as appropriate coping means are concerned. Some of us find comfort in food or alcohol. Some of us hide ourselves away. It's blatantly clear that some forms of coping can lead to more harm than good. That is why it is important to explore the various techniques until you find one that works for you.

Regardless, we all need little ways to help us ‘get through’ our stressful times. Try various techniques until you find something that works for you! For more information about anxiety and ways to cope with it click on any link in this blog.

Stress: How Can You Escape From It?

Did you know that stress can be a good thing? We've all come to think of it in such a negative way that we forget some of the benefits a little stress can provide. It's good that it can be a good thing because no matter how hard we try - we can never avoid all stress - it's a part of daily living. Think about it!

You may be wondering how stress can possibly be good for us – after all – stress seems to make us feel frustrated and, well, stressed out. But if we didn’t have at a little stress in our lives we would not worry about deadlines, whether that is work related, or a doctor’s appointment. Bills would not get paid.

A little stress can help us maintain control over our surroundings and that is a good thing. As I said, we cannot escape from stress completely – it doesn’t matter how much money you have or where you live – stressors are everywhere.

They can be as simple as a busy phone line or as complex as foreclosure on your home. But why does one person perceive something as a stressor and the next does not? Do they have a secret of some sort? Is it their outlook on life? Are they more optimistic than the people that get stressed over the smaller things?

Studies tell us we will feel stress when the demands of a situation seem to be greater than our biological, psychological, or social systems. I think that’s a long way of saying we will feel stress when we feel the situation is out of our control.

This may be when we are asked to speak in public, or going on a first date, or even meeting new people. Surely you’ve heard the saying, ‘Where the mind goes the body follows’, and I cannot think of a time that this applies more.

If you perceive a situation as stressful then it will be. There is not any question that particular things in life are stressful to us. That includes things like moving, starting a new job, a new addition to the family, the death of a loved one, getting fired from a job…..etc.

Can you see that some of the things on that list are actually positive events that one may expect to completely enjoy – but there is still a stress value included. So what can we do about stress – obviously we cannot avoid it.

Here are a few things that may help:

· Yoga

· Meditation

· Tai Chi

· Conscious Breathing

· Dancing

Some people find that an occasional vacation or a massage helps to reduce the stress in their lives. The only problem with this is that it is usually a short-term solution. On a daily basis try to add something to your life that you enjoy – even if it’s as simple as having some pretty flowers or an art piece to enjoy.

Do fun things whenever you can. Practice walking, working, and eating at a relaxed pace. Take breaks after meals to just relax for a few minutes. Get some fresh air everyday – if only for a few minutes – go outdoors and find something in nature that you can admire.

Dress comfortably. Remove your shoes when you can – the idea is to make you feel comfortable inside and out. If you notice yourself tensing up be sure to practice controlled breathing.

When you are overcome with stress it is important that you do not hold your feelings in. If possible share your feelings with at least one other person. If not, try journaling. Believe it or not this can be an effective coping mechanism.

Because stress will always be around - lurking just over your shoulder or behind the elements in your surroundings you should be prepared for it. Learn to deal effectively. What works for me may not work for you - be open to trying a few options before you decide that nothing will work! Take control of your life!

For more information on stress click on any link in this blog.